Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. (5) It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. (6) Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. (7) It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Not saying something to someone because you want them to like you is selfish, not love.
Notice the motivation there. I’m not advocating speaking the truth at all costs; but speaking the truth in love at the right time. The motivation to hold back that truth cannot be because you want someone (your boss, your wife, your friends or acquaintances) to like you. That is selfishness.
I’m not sure why I hadn’t thought of that before, but this principle has played an important role in my life even without me knowing it. I’ve almost lost friends over it. I’m not for losing friends, but if it means they hear the truth at the right time in love and grace, then I would be an idiot not to say it. I would be selfish, and would be taking an opportunity for them to grow away from them.