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Create Your Life

Entrepreneurship is awesome. It’s freedom. It’s creativity. It’s creation. It’s visionary.  But, but it’s not without it’s faults.

Tuesday night, Tilly and I met with some of our closest friends – a husband and wife who we’ve been blessed to live life with.  Both are leaders and visionaries. The husband is a close friend with an amazing heart and powerfully driven entrepreneur, and the wife is one of the most inspiring, leadership-driving, beauty-loving person I’ve had the pleasure of spending a dinner with.

In our conversations, our personal lives naturally mingle with our professional and Tuesday was no exception.  One of my takeaways from the evening was the following:

Entrepreneurs create.  Everything else (even the money) takes second seat to the act of creation.  It’s one of the biggest pleasures we get out of having the freedom to do what we want, how we want.

But the number one problem with entrepreneurs is being able to say “no” to things. It’s what breaks up marriages, ruins friendships, and makes us unhealthy while we work at our desks all day.  Many of us understand the power of saying “no”, of focusing.  We don’t, however, understand what this kind of inherent trait does to us.

It means we’re in a perpetual state of reaction.  And, the irony of it all, is that reaction is not creation.

The solution is this one tiny phase.  “Create your life.”

Notice, it’s not “create your lifestyle.”  That’s a given. We all work towards that.  But creating your life is a different thing altogether. It means creating a structure, a foundation, by which we will choose to live our lives on a daily basis.  Not because we want more structure, but because we want to be free to live our lives the way we want.

Seriously, what’s the point in being an entrepreneur if you’re simply reacting to everyone else all day long.  Create boundaries.  Create the life you’ve wanted.